Essential Resources You Need To Thrive In Divorce!

Lost. Scared. Lonely. Shaken. Sad. Angry. Bitter. Relieved. Hopeful. These are just some of the emotions you’ll experience along the emotional roller coaster that is divorce. It’s not anything that anyone should have to endure alone. Take heart because there are essential resources for divorce available to help you thrive through the divorce process, and beyond.

First, a word of caution: Avoid relying solely on friends and family for advice. While their support is invaluable for emotional comfort, their advice is often misguided, uninformed, and can even cause more harm than good. They are great for offering a shoulder to cry on and for reminding you that you are loved, all of which are essential through out your divorce. But their advice is not objective, and it is in your best interest to turn to unbiased professionals for better outcomes.

Here are some of the essential resources you should consider during and after your divorce:

1. A Good Therapist
   Divorce evokes a lot of emotions. It may even feel traumatic. Working through your feelings with a qualified therapist is crucial. A therapist can help you understand and process your emotions in the end of your marriage, and clarify your goals for the next phase of your life. This insight is essential for forming healthier future relationships.

2. Social Support
   Divorce can significantly disrupt social connections. The loss of being part of a couple might lead to exclusion from social gatherings, relocation can sever ties with neighbors, and low mood can hinder efforts to stay connected with friends and family. Rebuilding and strengthening your social support network is crucial for emotional recovery and well-being after a divorce.

3. CDFA® (Certified Divorce Financial Analyst)
   The most common and paralyzing fear that nearly everyone feels in divorce is “Will I be ok financially?”It’s inevitable. Before finalizing any settlement, you really need a second set of eyes and some financial projections so you know what you’re going to be looking at. This professional guidance can help you make informed decisions and long term financial mistakes in divorce.

4. The Internet
   Divorce has become big business. New resource sites pop up every day offering a wealth of free information, downloads, blogs, referrals, directories, etc. It can be somewhat overwhelming so just pick out what you connect with, and disregard the rest. Go slow. Be kind to yourself. Websites like Meetup.com can connect you to local divorce support groups. Attend a few meetings, but don’t linger too long—focus on recovery and moving forward.

Divorce is a period of your life, it will be challenging, but you will emerge stronger and happier, provided you make good decisions and use the resources available to you wisely. Remember, today is the first day of the rest of your life.